I would sit myself down and tell myself that I didn't have to get married to my boyfriend just to please my Mum. I would tell myself there will be many more people who think I would be desirable, intelligent, interesting etc. that 18 was too young and Mum would get over it and not try to live her life through me..
I would tell myself to experience life, see wonderful sights, to believe in myself and that I could do anything I wanted because I was worth it.
I would tell myself to live, to love and laugh. That it was ok to make mistakes, so cry, to stand up for my views, my feelings, to disagree. I would tell myself to stand on a beach to watch the sun go down without thinking that I really should be doing something far more constructive.
I would tell myself to pack a bag and go on an adventure that just because my Mum thinks that life is about getting a job, house, settling down because it is the right thing to do it is much more important to find out who I really am, to like and love myself.
Funny, all the things I have made sure that I have told my daughter to to.
Oh so many things, Diane. Not to believe that life revolves around my boyfriend. Spend more time with family - they aren't with us as long as we would like. Go travelling with friends. The planet is a big place and there are so many fantastic things to see, experiences to experience and people to get to know. Have more confidence in yourself and above all - I should have listened to my mother. It wasn't until I had Violet that I realised what a wonderful woman she was and I never even knew it.
Oh, my goodness! I would tell myself to have more confidence in my own capabilities, to not be afraid of what might happen in the future but to live more in the present. I would tell myself to try not to care what people thought/said/felt about me and not to be so self conscious of the way I looked and not to be so hard on myself to try and fit in but to relish being an individual, to be myself and not what other people wanted me to be:)
I'd say, go on, just do it, go to the Isle of Wight festival cos you'll regret not seeing The Doors, Jimi Hendrix, Joni Mitchell, Leonard Cohen, The Who, Jethro Tull, Melanie and Donovan, you really will.
I'd tell myself to do what I wanted and not what I thought my parents wanted me to do! I was such a timid thing - wish I had more confidence when I was 18. Liz @ Shortbread & Ginger
I'd say to my 18 year old self "Don't care what everyone else thinks. If they don't like you for who you are, turn the other cheek and tell everyone to kiss it, lol!!
Stay in education, apply yourself, become highly qualified in something you enjoy and is well paid - so ensuring your independence for the rest of your life. Everything else is negotiable.
Don't snog your boyfriend's best mate. He may be completely gorgeous and you may go on to love each other very much.....but it will end in a lot of tears for a lot of people and shape a lot in your future! Lisa x
Hi Diane Ive just read the comment you left on my post. I think we very well may live parallel lives, I read your blog and we do tend to visit the same places. I love love love Wiveton, we visited Norfolk again this year just so we could go back. Lovely to chat at last! : ) x
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I would sit myself down and tell myself that I didn't have to get married to my boyfriend just to please my Mum. I would tell myself there will be many more people who think I would be desirable, intelligent, interesting etc. that 18 was too young and Mum would get over it and not try to live her life through me..
I would tell myself to experience life, see wonderful sights, to believe in myself and that I could do anything I wanted because I was worth it.
I would tell myself to live, to love and laugh. That it was ok to make mistakes, so cry, to stand up for my views, my feelings, to disagree. I would tell myself to stand on a beach to watch the sun go down without thinking that I really should be doing something far more constructive.
I would tell myself to pack a bag and go on an adventure that just because my Mum thinks that life is about getting a job, house, settling down because it is the right thing to do it is much more important to find out who I really am, to like and love myself.
Funny, all the things I have made sure that I have told my daughter to to.
Above all, to be happy..
Oh so many things, Diane.
Not to believe that life revolves around my boyfriend.
Spend more time with family - they aren't with us as long as we would like.
Go travelling with friends. The planet is a big place and there are so many fantastic things to see, experiences to experience and people to get to know.
Have more confidence in yourself and above all - I should have listened to my mother. It wasn't until I had Violet that I realised what a wonderful woman she was and I never even knew it.
Oh, my goodness! I would tell myself to have more confidence in my own capabilities, to not be afraid of what might happen in the future but to live more in the present. I would tell myself to try not to care what people thought/said/felt about me and not to be so self conscious of the way I looked and not to be so hard on myself to try and fit in but to relish being an individual, to be myself and not what other people wanted me to be:)
I'd say, go on, just do it, go to the Isle of Wight festival cos you'll regret not seeing The Doors, Jimi Hendrix, Joni Mitchell, Leonard Cohen, The Who, Jethro Tull, Melanie and Donovan, you really will.
I'd tell myself to do what I wanted and not what I thought my parents wanted me to do! I was such a timid thing - wish I had more confidence when I was 18.
Liz @ Shortbread & Ginger
I'd say to my 18 year old self "Don't care what everyone else thinks. If they don't like you for who you are, turn the other cheek and tell everyone to kiss it, lol!!
Stay in education, apply yourself, become highly qualified in something you enjoy and is well paid - so ensuring your independence for the rest of your life. Everything else is negotiable.
I would tell myself to slow down and enjoy the moment, that time goes too quickly. To accept my family, foibles and all.
So many things, but mostly, think twice, or even three times about decisions, and be ready to ask for and to take advice (from older people).
Don't snog your boyfriend's best mate. He may be completely gorgeous and you may go on to love each other very much.....but it will end in a lot of tears for a lot of people and shape a lot in your future!
Lisa x
Dont wait until you have a nice house, car, job life before trying for a baby.
Simple - to be more courageous, not such a wimp.
You have as much right to be here as anyone else. x
Hi Diane
Ive just read the comment you left on my post.
I think we very well may live parallel lives, I read your blog and we do tend to visit the same places.
I love love love Wiveton, we visited Norfolk again this year just so we could go back.
Lovely to chat at last! : ) x
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